Things Not To Say To Your Spouse

Marriage is a wonderfully complicated thing. I think there is only one way to keep a happy and loving relationship with your spouse... put much time and effort in the relationship. call it emotional investment if you will, it you put in the needed effort, perhaps even more. the rewards you will reap will be more than enough!

With that in mind, here is a list of things NOT to say to your spouse, and keep the peace in your home:

I told you so.
I can do whatever I like.
You're just like your mother.
If you don't like it, you can just leave.
You're always in a bad mood.
Can't you do anything right?
You just don't think.
That was stupid.
It's your fault.
All you ever do is think of yourself.
What's wrong with you?
If you really loved me, you'd do this.
All you ever do is complain.
You're such a baby.
I can't do anything to please you.
Turnabout's fair play.
You get what you deserve.
Why don't you ever listen to me?
What's your problem?
Can't you be more responsible?
I can never understand you.
What were you thinking?
Do you always have to be right?
You're impossible.
I don't know why I put up with you.
You deserve a dose of your own medicine.

Source: Dr. Steve Stephens - Marriage:Experience The Best

TODDLER TIPS: USING TIME OUTS TO DISCIPLINE YOUR CHILD

Forcing your child to go for a time out is a good way to stop a child’s misbehaving. This also allows her to regain her composure. But you can’t just shove your child towards a corner and let her stare at a blank wall, there has to be rules to be set.

 

• Designate a spot in the house that is uninteresting and away from where most members of the family are. This will be your child’s official time out spot.
• Using simple words let your child understand the reason why her behavior caused her to go for a short time out. Let her know that hitting or shouting at her friend is not appropriate behavior, hence the time out.
• Impose the time out immediately after the misbehavior is done, so that your child will associate the misbehaving with the time out.
• Keep time outs short. 3-5 minutes should be long enough for toddlers and preschoolers. The time out is meant to stop the child’s misbehavior, not as a punishment.
• After the time out, talk to your child again and remind her why she was given a time out (it is not right to hit or shout…etc). Then direct her attention towards another activity that she can be interested in and focus on.

frustrated

At what point do realize that you’re stuck? At what point do you think that you’re frustrated and hurting and sadly there’s nothing that you can do about it? When you’re unhappy with something, should you just be quiet and be miserable or should you tell your partner, knowing he’ll do it for you…and still be miserable anyway… because its frustrating that he doesn’t have initiative and he is not sensitive and you have to spoon feed him with these kinds of things…