Things Not To Say To Your Spouse

Marriage is a wonderfully complicated thing. I think there is only one way to keep a happy and loving relationship with your spouse... put much time and effort in the relationship. call it emotional investment if you will, it you put in the needed effort, perhaps even more. the rewards you will reap will be more than enough!

With that in mind, here is a list of things NOT to say to your spouse, and keep the peace in your home:

I told you so.
I can do whatever I like.
You're just like your mother.
If you don't like it, you can just leave.
You're always in a bad mood.
Can't you do anything right?
You just don't think.
That was stupid.
It's your fault.
All you ever do is think of yourself.
What's wrong with you?
If you really loved me, you'd do this.
All you ever do is complain.
You're such a baby.
I can't do anything to please you.
Turnabout's fair play.
You get what you deserve.
Why don't you ever listen to me?
What's your problem?
Can't you be more responsible?
I can never understand you.
What were you thinking?
Do you always have to be right?
You're impossible.
I don't know why I put up with you.
You deserve a dose of your own medicine.

Source: Dr. Steve Stephens - Marriage:Experience The Best

you didn't greet me on valentine's day

i was so into valentine's day in the past. i was into being given something special, and giving something special. this is year is different for me.

no surprises. no flowers. no fancy dinners. no nothing. no effort at all to make me feel special. Seven year itch? hmmm.

have we drifted apart? why is there so much tension always between us? i am not happy anymore. you don't say you're sorry anymore, you don't try to pacify me when i'm upset. you just sit on your side, brooding, while i get more upset because you're not trying to comfort me. you don't say i love you over the phone anymore.

what's wrong? i don't even know what you're feeling. i don't know what burdens you carry. i don't know what goes on in that head of yours when you stare at nothing in particular.

i do know one thing... you didn't greet me on valentine's day this year.

love at first sight

do you believe in love at first sight? i don't. i don't believe you can look at somone from across the room and know that the universe wants you two to be together. there is just no logic. lust in first sight, sure. love? i don't think so. you see an attractive person, you size him up, you look at his eyes, his skin, his rippling muscles... and you let out a sigh... gawd! i'm in love! YEAH RIGHT!

it takes time to know a person... let alone develop friendship with him. that is what i strongly believe in... start as friends. get to know each other. know him when he is happy, get to know him when he's not. study him when he's not aware that you're looking. find out how he is when he is drunk, sober, stressed, hungry, horny, angry, bored... GET TO KNOW HIM. this will take time, and that is what's good about friendship. no pressure. no time frame. you grow, together. then when the time is right, when the stars are aligned. when the fates are smiling down at you... you slowly find yourself swirling... falling in love. believe me, it is the sweetest feeling. more precious than that abrupt feeling you feel in your gut when you see someone goodlooking. that's not love. that's a knee jerk reaction from your body looking to procreate with the best of the species to improve your gene pool. that is genetics. that is biology. that is definitely not love.