Things Not To Say To Your Spouse

Marriage is a wonderfully complicated thing. I think there is only one way to keep a happy and loving relationship with your spouse... put much time and effort in the relationship. call it emotional investment if you will, it you put in the needed effort, perhaps even more. the rewards you will reap will be more than enough!

With that in mind, here is a list of things NOT to say to your spouse, and keep the peace in your home:

I told you so.
I can do whatever I like.
You're just like your mother.
If you don't like it, you can just leave.
You're always in a bad mood.
Can't you do anything right?
You just don't think.
That was stupid.
It's your fault.
All you ever do is think of yourself.
What's wrong with you?
If you really loved me, you'd do this.
All you ever do is complain.
You're such a baby.
I can't do anything to please you.
Turnabout's fair play.
You get what you deserve.
Why don't you ever listen to me?
What's your problem?
Can't you be more responsible?
I can never understand you.
What were you thinking?
Do you always have to be right?
You're impossible.
I don't know why I put up with you.
You deserve a dose of your own medicine.

Source: Dr. Steve Stephens - Marriage:Experience The Best

words from the wise

snagged without permission but with utmost respect and admiration from butch dalisay's blog. it was an outline of a recent speech he gave to graduates. so full of insights! i just love the guy!

1. You can blame poverty only so much for holding you back. Instead of using it as an excuse to do nothing, use it as a reason to do all you can. Don’t waste time grumbling, or feeling embittered.

2. Those of us who are poor simply have to do more to catch up. The only thing we have is our intelligence and resourcefulness, and no one can help us best but ourselves. Find ways of compensating for your shortcomings (in my case, this was through reading and, later, writing).

3. Education is the great equalizer. Don’t waste this chance when you get it. Have fun learning, and learn to have fun, but stay focused. Your richer classmates can afford to bum around, but you can’t.

4. A good school is a great help, but a good mind is even more important. The best school can’t help a lazy mind.

5. Learn how to write and to speak well—it really helps. And read, read, read. Read things beyond your immediate interest and competence. Nothing you read is ever wasted.

6. Be engaged in the issues of your time. Some things are more important than personal prosperity and success. When you succeed, give back. UP’s “iskolar ng bayan” and Ateneo’s “a man for others” suggest the same thing: we study to serve the people, not just ourselves nor our families.

i just love it. thanks sir butch!

BA in Journalism

i am thinking of taking my "career" a notch higher, i'm thinking of taking up further studies in our community college. BA in Journalism. hmmm. sounds pretty major.

our course this plan of mine is not without complications. i am again being disturbed by the logical side of me, why in the world would i take up journalism??? do i intend to have career in this industry? (maybe) do i think i can make it? (sure!) why, i mean really, why? (for personal fulfillment, yep, no monetary rewards, just the contentment of taking up something i am interested in. --- enter another problem: if i just want to further study, why not take up a course that will complement my degree? maybe something in computers. i've spent 10 years of my life grudgingly crunching numbers anyway... journalism is a field for the young and strong willed... not for the middle aged wife and mother suffering from a mid life crisis.

now what?

i am more depressed that when i began writing this blog entry.

i really want to be a better writer.

i want to feel alive again.

what to do? what to do?

let me start again

hi blogging world! i'm back! it has been a while since i posted. the holiday buzz and my work kept me from my blogging. so how is life? boring and dead dry as always.

my dreams of being a writer? dreams still.

hope this becomes reality soon. i hope to take formal lessons.

this has not been a very good start for the new year for me. i was depressed on christmas eve, and on new year's eve. not a very good sign of things to come? i hope not!

i keeping a stiff upper lip. i'm trudging on.