Things Not To Say To Your Spouse

Marriage is a wonderfully complicated thing. I think there is only one way to keep a happy and loving relationship with your spouse... put much time and effort in the relationship. call it emotional investment if you will, it you put in the needed effort, perhaps even more. the rewards you will reap will be more than enough!

With that in mind, here is a list of things NOT to say to your spouse, and keep the peace in your home:

I told you so.
I can do whatever I like.
You're just like your mother.
If you don't like it, you can just leave.
You're always in a bad mood.
Can't you do anything right?
You just don't think.
That was stupid.
It's your fault.
All you ever do is think of yourself.
What's wrong with you?
If you really loved me, you'd do this.
All you ever do is complain.
You're such a baby.
I can't do anything to please you.
Turnabout's fair play.
You get what you deserve.
Why don't you ever listen to me?
What's your problem?
Can't you be more responsible?
I can never understand you.
What were you thinking?
Do you always have to be right?
You're impossible.
I don't know why I put up with you.
You deserve a dose of your own medicine.

Source: Dr. Steve Stephens - Marriage:Experience The Best

Why is being proper important?

i've asked myself this question so many times., in so many different forms. why do we have to act a certain way when i really feel differently? isn't this similar to being unreal to yourself. not expressing what you really feel? what ever happened to truth and honesty?

well i guess, this keeps the order in society. what if everyone who ever wanted to "kill" someone in anger actually does? there will probably no more population problem in the world. acting properly keeps things in check. keeps us civilized and apart from other forms of animals... who basically act on instinct.

let me start again

hi blogging world! i'm back! it has been a while since i posted. the holiday buzz and my work kept me from my blogging. so how is life? boring and dead dry as always.

my dreams of being a writer? dreams still.

hope this becomes reality soon. i hope to take formal lessons.

this has not been a very good start for the new year for me. i was depressed on christmas eve, and on new year's eve. not a very good sign of things to come? i hope not!

i keeping a stiff upper lip. i'm trudging on.

depression era

yes, the depression continues. christmas day is getting nearer and yet i see no happiness in sight. i put up our tree this weekend, thinking that a bit christmas spirit might creep in my dark dark heart, and yet still nothing.

i am so darn sad. is this a physical thing? maybe i have an imbalance of sorts. what will i tell the doctor should i have myself checked up? doc, i am sad all the time. what 's wrong with me? am i going to be ready with whatever his answers will be? what's wrong with me... the list might be toooo long.

is there a cure for unhappiness? mid life crisis?

please tell me...soon. coz i feel like i'm actually losing it. i feel like i am nearing the end of my sanity. being so unhappy can't be healthy right?

please. let me snap out of this...

love at first sight

do you believe in love at first sight? i don't. i don't believe you can look at somone from across the room and know that the universe wants you two to be together. there is just no logic. lust in first sight, sure. love? i don't think so. you see an attractive person, you size him up, you look at his eyes, his skin, his rippling muscles... and you let out a sigh... gawd! i'm in love! YEAH RIGHT!

it takes time to know a person... let alone develop friendship with him. that is what i strongly believe in... start as friends. get to know each other. know him when he is happy, get to know him when he's not. study him when he's not aware that you're looking. find out how he is when he is drunk, sober, stressed, hungry, horny, angry, bored... GET TO KNOW HIM. this will take time, and that is what's good about friendship. no pressure. no time frame. you grow, together. then when the time is right, when the stars are aligned. when the fates are smiling down at you... you slowly find yourself swirling... falling in love. believe me, it is the sweetest feeling. more precious than that abrupt feeling you feel in your gut when you see someone goodlooking. that's not love. that's a knee jerk reaction from your body looking to procreate with the best of the species to improve your gene pool. that is genetics. that is biology. that is definitely not love.

GMA and Erap, chummy once more.

just as PGMA generated praise and admiration during her term as the first president to convict a former head of state of plunder... definitely a momentous event in Philippine history, she is now again making generating mixed responses from various camps regarding Erap's clemency. what can i say, except that it reeks with political innuendos, more of pacifying rather that peace keeping. PGMA is just seeking to win over the masses and political rivals from Erap's camp to suit her needs and those of her guys. arghh! the dirty world of politic. one day you are the worst enemies (if it gives you a positive SWS rating, why not?), the next day, you're chummy once more(if it gives you thumbs up from the masses and other strong political figures, why not?).

makes me think back of the times i joined rallys in makati, sneaking out of the office just to shout with the "educated rallyists" Stepdown Erap! time well spent...not! i, as long as thousands others, put our lives on the line to support the ouster of Erap, hoped for a conviction, prayed for a change in this battered nation of ours... beaming momentarily for the "winning moments" of Erap's ouster, Sandigan rulings, house arrest.... only to have the rug pulled under our feet by an EXECUTIVE CLEMENCY. what a waste! what favors are they expecting in return i wonder... yes there was that agreement the Erap will no longer run for office, (sure, save yourself first as usual) but i am sure there are other agreements kept off the press, agreements that will surely affect political kinships in the senate and congress, among the secretaries, heck it will probably even go down to the baranggay level, where they say the jueteng collections really come from... it all boils down to MONEY and POLITICAL FAVORS.

they say: it's just to keep peace in our country, let our wounds from the past heal so that we can move forward... ok, whatever. as if pardoning one former president will miraculously rid the government of festering lowlives who thinks the national treasury is their petty cash fund, wipe clean the national debt from the IMF, give our public education system a makeover and make the Philippines Asia's newest Tiger... ok, whatever. since i can't do anything about it, i will just charge that wasted part of my life to experience. note to self, never trust a person who grins enthusiastically, but who's smile never reaches her eyes, as they say, the eyes are the windows of the soul... i just try and look at the bright side... at least at those rallys, i got to see some artistas, kris aquino being one of them!

(ok, what bright side?!?!)

precious web time

time was when i had ALL the time in the world. when i could read all the books that i wanted to read, watch tv, DAYDREAM... now i can't do all these things anymore... UNINTERRUPTED. there would always be something to drag me back to reality.

i love logging on... although i don't really have any particular site i visit. i blog. i love it.

i read entertainment stuff. i sooo looove the entertainment world. the movies. the gossip. i just wish the state of local entertainment is upgraged too. heck sure the US showbiz don't have a single moral bone (same as here) at least they do their controversies with pizazz!

back to my precious time. i would love to have more time for myself. nearly inpossible though now in my case.

at least i get to sneak in some blogging time.

i wish people would stop bugging me when i am with my laptop. they know i am BUSY... isn't it obvious?!

time... time... time... a most precious commodity. what can i say except....

i want more!... more!... more!!!!

the truth shall set me free

i coming clean. i have another blog somewhere in cyberspace. 2 more actually. one i have somehow built up some readership... but with a very specific audience. i've made friends and i've shared milestones. the other one is more personal. it is more about my conversations with my God. then why the heck am i starting a new one? i guess there is side of me i need to share and release... a side of me i can't write about in my other blogs. the bitchy side. the weird side. the crazy side. we all have one i guess. i know, i know. it is some sort of escape. not accepting that everything is a part of a whole. heck, it's my life and it's my process so beat it! lol!

what i write in my other blogs, those are MY thoughts. what i write here, they are MY thoughts. so what if i can't post them all in one blog. so what if i compartmentalize my life. not the healthiest thing to do, but then again... MY LIFE right?

so what if i have a side of me that i don't want friends and family to know about...yet. the important thing is i am not keeping things bottled in my chest until i become too strung up that i'd get a gun and start a killing rampage at the nearest grade school. i am keeping it real. for myself at least... for the meantime.

ok, enough explanations. there it is. i am bitchy sometimes... no apologies.

new look

i decided to change the look of my blog from inspiring and relaxing green to dark and twisted black. maybe i can go deeper into my soul and find something to write about... that is if my life is not so darn BORING! so i decided to get the cutting edge look... well as they say black is the new... well, black. ooooh, so daring... bleech!

ok, so what now? i am thinking i need to be more free in writing in this blog. i need to free the maaany personalities that i have. maybe someone in there can write something worth reading someday...

a new strategy

ok, so the entertainment plan didn't pan out... but then again, almost most of my endeavors end up this way...it doesn't mean i'd throw in the towel and slither away... i will just put it in a drawer in my crazy head for safekeeping, someday when i am goin' crazy out of boredom, i'll take a peek in that drawer and we'll see what i can do...

ok, that said, what do i intend to do now? write. write. write.

about what you ask? anything and everything.

ok, so what about that glorietta blast? hmmm... i was away busy with something when that happened. thankfully i was faaaar away from "ground zero"... so i didn't really get what actually happened except when i passed TV sets along the way... there was a blast... there were casualties... they were pointing the blame to a friggin' LPG... nope, wait a minute, it was definitely a bomb... nope, stop the presses... it was actually SHIT.

too bad, people got hurt with what? shit. it was one hell of a freak accident. death by feces.

although, i am still not entirely convinced that menthane gas ? and diesel brought about such destruction, a little voice in my head keeps on saying "it's just damage control... it is REALLY a bomb!" ... but then who listens to that little voice in my head anyway, just one of my maaany personalities trying desperately for some exposure time...